Springfield, Michigan, United States
They belong to…
I am 35 years old, born in Wichita, KS USA. I’m a Social Media Marketing Manager that works from home, engaged to a non-citizen Hungarian, and I don’t have any human children, but I have one dog child, two nieces, and one nephew.
What it’s like to walk in her shoes for a day…
First things first, most days I don’t wear shoes. But most days my life is pretty low key. It starts with coffee, it ends with tea, and typically it’s just me, my computer (work-from-homer), and my dog pals. My male companion and I are currently seeking a marriage visa so he doesn’t currently live in the USA. While I’m lucky enough to have him home for Christmas, he’s not typically here. I like all things peace and quiet, cozy and routine. And because I’m unmarried and have no children, that is a luxury I can afford.
Growing up in her shoes she was…
HAAAAA. I’m not so sure they were expectations as much as my parents just wanted us to be good kids. We weren’t allowed to watch TV or movies that weren’t edited by my mom. We read books. We were encouraged to get good grades and do well in school. And be kind. And we had to dig holes when we got into trouble. But I don’t feel like my parents put expectations on us.
Her biggest challenges day-to-day…
Being understood. From why I’m still not married or don’t have children, to why women should be paid the same as men, to why being sensitive isn’t a disability, to the simple day to day language barriers of Hungarian and English (even after 5 years). I grew up in a very conservative family and even though I think some viewpoints have shifted due to our current immigration struggles, most of my family don’t understand anything outside of Fox News. I think being understood as women is truly one of the biggest obstacles we face and will ever face. It’s in our relationships, it’s in the workplace, it’s in the battles we fight in politics and policy. I think if more people understood, it would be easier to communicate and if we could communicate, we’d be able to make positive change.
Things you should know if you’re going to walk in her shoes…
That feminism isn’t bra-burning and men-hating. You can be a feminist and still believe in the cooking dinner for your husband, cleaning the house, and raising babies.
What are the advantages of being a woman in the 21st Century?
In my world, a huge advantage is that I’m a white, mostly middle class woman. So basically I’m afforded every advantage in the world.
Flashbulb memories (s) or what it’s really like to walk in her shoes…
I spent most of my childhood living in a mission that helped homeless people in downtown Oklahoma City and then Kansas City, where my godmother was black. My school years, through high school, I went to school with one black kid. And minus my best friend, I currently live in a city where I can go days without seeing any black people at all. Moral of my story: Life is weird and you never know where you’re going to end up and racism is alive and well in Springfield, MO.
Anything else we should know?
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